David Mason was given four
years in a young offenders’ institute after raping 12-year-old girl before
joining the apprenticeship programme at Celebrity Chef’s Jamie Oliver’s Fifteen
restaurant.
Dear
Jamie Oliver,
I write
this letter as I read online in horror that your representatives have confirmed
that a convicted pedophile, David Mason has received a cushy apprentice job at
your restaurant. I believe in so publicly giving a pedophile such an amazing
opportunity is a smack in the face for victims of child abuse. It absolutely
sends the WRONG MESSAGE to potential and active pedophiles. The message being
that “if you commit a horrific crime of
raping or molesting a child there is a chance society will forgive you and give
you a wonderful new life and you could even work for a celebrity”. The fact
that he went to prison doesn’t mean that it was an effective deterrence. David
Mason could still pose a huge risk to children. The litmus test should always
be “If (god forbid) the pedophile had raped a child you know, would you have
made the same decision?”. Anyone who says ‘Yes’ is a liar, there only seems to
be a desensitization and normalization of child abuse when the victim is a
stranger. Had the victim been your child (god forbid) you or your management
would not have let David Mason anywhere near your restaurant.
In fact
it shocks me more that your restaurant has hired a pedophile in light of the
information we have now on how rampant pedophilia is in light of operation
Yewtree, the high profile child abuctions, rapes and murders and the recent
pedophile hunter documentary on ITV. These cases show there are predators in
society who, if and when the opportunity comes they would not think twice of
molesting, raping and murdering a child. In fact to get further kicks they will
take photos and videos of the ordeal.
I cried
today when I saw the news article trending because I know like many survivors
of child sexual abuse, I will never ever get a second chance in life. I am
serving a LIFE SENTENCE. I have had one life and it was ruined by pedophiles
both young and old. No matter what I achieve in my career, personal life or
hobbies the pain will always be there and the physical and mental scars will
always be a reminder of my horrific ordeals. In my case it was multiple abusers
both strangers and people I knew and trusted.
Yet a pedophile gets an amazing opportunity to start a new life? As I
looked at the photos of David Mason smiling and enjoying his apprenticeship
programme I feel a revulsion. All I imagine is that same face was probably
smiling and getting twisted pleasure from attacking and raping a 12 year old
girl. I can’t see past that because I believe once a pedophile always a
pedophile and they cannot be rehabilitated. I will proceed to tell you why I
believe why pedophiles can never be rehabilitated from my own experience as I
do not wish to discuss cases in the media and further distress victims or the
families of victims who have sadly passed. Also it would be negligent for me to
make assumptions about how those victims suffered their ordeals.
If you
read my bio you can see the multiple instances of when I was raped as a child
and I can tell you the pedophiles involved ranged from early teenage hood (with
kids been incited to molest when it was
groups), young adults, mature adults and old people. It never made a difference
to me whether my abuser was 13, 19, 40 or 60, I felt the same anger and
revulsion! They all knew it was wrong but took some twisted pleasure from
abusing me. There was never one reason
for their attacks on me but there were characteristics that they had in common
no matter their age, background, history or family situation;
·
They
have a strong sexual attraction to children and it is something they will find
a way of satisfying and the vulnerability of a child makes them believe they
will not be found out or the child will never speak of it.
·
A
manic desire to have power and control over someone else
·
They
take natural pleasure in the vulnerability of a child and they will easily
threaten to kill you, kill someone you love, lock you away or rape you further
because no one will believe a ‘dirty little slut like you”. They know a child
will easily believe these threats and be scared.
·
Hate
(whether self hate or hate towards a certain gender or other human beings)
·
A
twisted desire to cause fear, humiliation and pain to make themselves feel
important or big
·
Opportunistic
predators
·
Morbid
curiosity because of wanting to experience sexual perversions and a child is an
easy target
·
Twisted
urges that need satisfying after watching porn (whether adult porn or child
porn)
·
Entitlement
that makes them think sex is “a right” and they should not be refused or
rejected. In fact the word ‘no’ in my experience angers a pedophile more
·
They
are turned on by the secrecy and taboo of child sex abuse and each time they
abuse you they will cross more boundaries, some will even want to abuse
multiple children at once, torture a child and possibly murder a child.
·
They
are convinced they are doing nothing wrong and they will even try to convince
you that you are a slut who is asking for it or is bad and making him (or her)
abuse you. If you were not so bad he would not abuse you.
·
They
find a child seductive or provocative and will blame your swimming costume,
breasts that have developed early and try and walk in on your naked in the bath
or bedroom.
·
Lastly
they know the crime is so horrific, taboo and secretive that the child will
never be believed or be told to keep quiet about it. They are in fact very
confident that the adults in your life will turn a blind eye or call you a liar.
They will repeatedly tell you this until you become so paranoid and afraid of
telling anyone.
While I
have never had a problem with the issue of prisoner rehabilitation I have never
supported this when it comes to sexual and violent crimes because I do not
believe they are people who can change. I believe 100% that pedophiles can
NEVER be rehabilitated because the abusers in my life were never remorseful and
they were repeated abusers even if it was not always against children. Pedophiles
are dangerous because they do not believe they are doing something wrong and
given the chance they would campaign for the normalization of child sex abuse. The
horrific crime of pedophilia should never be trivialized as ‘ a mistake ‘ or
‘bad judgement’ it is always a pre-mediated opportunistic crime. No amount of
time in prison will stop a pedophile from having sexual perversions towards a
child. Prison time is not punishment, it is a weak way for the justice system to
keep a pedophile away from society for a while. Society and the justice system
have not found a way to deal with pedophiles adequately because the justice and
punishment is not ‘victim led’. The predator has always and will always have
the desire to harm a child and they will either create the opportunity or wait
until the opportunity comes up to abuse as child. Frankly Jamie Oliver your
apprenticeship programme would have been better off rehabilitating a shoplifter
or fraudster.
What is
even more disgusting is that after my ordeals, I have had to watch for years in
dismay as the pedophiles who were in positions of trust live happy, loving, fulfilling,
amazing lives pretending to the world they were nice normal people. I have also
had to live with the fear that they are abusing the children that I see in
their presence. I have also seen just like in the case of David Mason known
pedophiles being welcomed back into their families and communities and being
given forgiveness with the excuse that every human being deserves a second
chance. I do not believe pedophiles deserve a second chance because their
victims will never get a second chance, you cannot undo the rape and
molestation. There have been instances as well were I have been told off for
not forgiving someone who had sexually harassed me for sex, or raped and
molested someone else. They act as if a victim is uncivilized and a bad person
for not having forgiveness in their heart to forgive a child rapist or
molester. This is why I am re-traumatized and horrified whenever I see any
forgiveness and sympathy for a pedophile because I know they have no remorse, repentance
for what they have done.
You could never understand the
terrible message you are sending to predators and kick in the teeth your
decision has given to victims.
I can
only see that you have rewarded a man who raped a 12 year old girl by giving
him a lucrative life line. While his now teenage victim will see the news
article and be re-traumatized. You cannot deal with pedophilia and other sexual
and violent crimes with the same attitude as petty crimes like shoplifting or smoking
cannabis. Trying to make people believe if you engage pedophiles positively,
occupy them meaningfully and keeping them from direct contact with children
will ‘cure’ them of pedophilia is nonsense. It is a dangerous path and will put
children in danger. Pedophiles will never stop desiring children. If you have
never been raped as a child you will never be an authentic expert on pedophilia
whether you work as a professional i.e therapist, authority figure i.e police
or social services, or as a person who runs rehabilitation programmes. You just
have no clue how the mind of a pedophile works in that moment of attack and
what the victim endures.
Whenever
I have attended any survivor support group, workshop or event survivors have always voiced this experience,
that “if you have never been abused as a child” you will never ever understand
what it feels like to have experienced that horrific traumatic ordeal. Personally
I have always lived with the need to forgive, forget and move on but sadly it
doesn’t work that way. In fact the more I tried to forget and push away the
trauma the more it affected me. Do you think I wanted to live with such
horrific memories? In fact I hated feeling that way so much that I pushed away
my memories so hard it triggered a long term dissociative disorder. The
dissociative disorder made it difficult to connect with others and encouraged
bullying because I was perceived as weird, cold and uncaring. There are a lot
of insensitive and uninformed comments from “non victims” and over the years I
have heard the following;
·
It
was a long time ago surely you need to move on.
·
You
need to forgive, not to excuse the
pedophile but in order to heal yourself
·
Your
negativity will not help you heal
·
God
will heal you
·
You
were so young did you ever understand what happened to you?
·
I
know someone who was abused and s/he is fine why can’t you be move on?
·
You
can get over this you are not that child anymore
·
Your
current fear is unfounded it will never happen to you again, why are you still
so scared?
·
The
person who abused you is out of your life you can heal if you try harder
·
You
are letting this person continue to ruin your life because s/he is still in
your head
·
Oprah
Winfrey was raped as a child and she is fine, and you can be fine too! You can
be a role model too!
I know many will ask me what
suggestions I have for punishing pedophiles and preventing further abuse?
·
I
believe the justice system needs to give much longer sentences and listen to
victim impact reports
·
The
government needs to invest more in the penal system, if there is enough money
to go to unnecessary wars
·
Then
the government can built more maximum security prisons to keep pedophiles away
from society longer.
·
I
would also encourage investments in places like Coalinga State Hospital (CSH) in
the USA, which was featured in Louis Theroux’s 2009 BBC documentary, “A Place
for Paedophiles”. Coalinga State
Hospital (CSH) opened on September 5, 2005 and was California’s newest
state hospital, the first to be constructed in the state in more than 50 years.
It is a maximum security civil-commitment facility built to ensure that
sexually violent predators stay out of the community. Currently, the hospital
houses 850 sexually violent predators
·
In
the time they are in prison they should take part in compulsory sessions that
enable them to face the reality of the evil they have done and the impact on
their victims. They should be continually assessed with regard to their
attraction and sexual desires for children.
·
Chemical
castration should be available for those who admit their desires will never go
away (I prefer it to be compulsory but human rights legislation would not allow
it)
·
I
do agree that in prison they should re-train pedophiles but for a vocation that
is self employed. I think it is unfair to force law abiding workers to work
alongside a convicted pedophile some of whom could have been abused in
childhood. They should only be allowed to work self employed where they
disclose their past and it is up to the employer/client to employ them and the
community to feel safe with a paedophile working nearby.
·
Also
just like there programmes for certain groups in society to work together,
there could for example be factory or site jobs where the only staff are
pedophiles. They will only be handling goods and have very limited contact with
the public.
·
Once
a paedophile is out of prison the community where he lives should know of his
past and be the ones allowed to decide on whether the paedophile can live and
work in the area.
·
School
and community programmes should be devised speaking openly about paedophiles
and providing child and parent packs on how to watch out for predators and
communicating with their children.
READ BELOW THE STATEMENT FROM
JAMIE OLIVER’S FIFTEEN RESTAURANT
“Since 2002,
Fifteen has been taking young people into its Apprentice Programme, many of
whom need a second chance to turn their life around.
“David was
completely honest about his past when he applied for the course and we decided
that as he had served his sentence he should be allowed a place on the
programme. He has so far been an excellent student."
Mason spent two
years behind bars and two years on probation, during which time he did a
Prince’s Trust Team Programme.
Following his
horrific crime, Mason was put on the sex offenders register indefinitely and
has been banned from being near young girls without permission.
Mason was given the
sentence in 2010 after forcing himself upon his young victim after playing
video games together.
It has been
reported that during the sentencing, the judge presiding over the case said:
“The law exists to protect young and vulnerable children and she was both of
those things, as you well knew. You knew very well that having sex with such a
young girl was wrong.”
Source http://www.mirror.co.uk/3am/celebrity-news/jamie-olivers-restaurant-hires-convicted-4449275#ixzz3GMBfAuAe
Source http://www.mirror.co.uk/3am/celebrity-news/jamie-olivers-restaurant-hires-convicted-4449275#ixzz3GMBfAuAe
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